Barbara Sher
Barbara Sher
Barbara Sheris a speaker, career/lifestyle coach, and best-selling author of seven books on goal achievement. Her books have sold millions of copies and been translated into many languages. She has appeared on Oprah, The Today Show, 60 Minutes, CNN, and Good Morning America and her public television specials air regularly in the United States. Sher lectures at universities, Fortune 100 companies and professional conferences all over the world...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionBusinesswoman
CountryUnited States of America
desire wish needs
What you want is what you need. Your dearest wish comes straight from your core, loaded with vital information about who you are and who you can become.
emotional support needs
We all need to learn a new language for love - a language that speaks not in socks, pancakes, and paychecks, but in shared fascination with physics or poetry, delight in each other's uniqueness, and mutual practical and emotional support.
appreciation needs remember
Down deep we really know our worth, but we don't have easy access to that knowledge. We need to hear praise coming from outside ourselves or we won't remember that we deserve it.
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Whenever we dream out loud, were criticized for being foolish by people who really have no idea how special we are. As a result, we crush our dreams without giving them half a chance.
music violin used
We are like violins. We can be used as doorstops, or we can make music.
silly self-worth sea
Human beings are not comparable. You can't compare us any more than you can compare roses and oranges, or mountains and the sea. You might prefer living by the sea to living in the mountains. You certainly like some people better than you like others. Preferences are perfectly valid...they're just your style asserting itself again. But you'd feel pretty silly saying 'The sea is better than the mountains.' It's every bit as silly to go around saying 'I'm better than Mary, but Joe is better than me.'
dream who-we-are our-dreams
And our dreams are who we are.
dream sky self
But who you are is not a concept in the sky, and it's not a record of you accomplishments either. The most original and creative side of you can re-emerge only when you get time of your own, free time, wide-open time, uncommitted time, time in which to go after dreams or do absolutely nothing if you choose. Without it you can't have a self.
jobs swimming thinking
Doing is a quantum leap from imagining. Thinking about swimming isn't much like actually getting in the water. Actually getting in the water can take your breath away. The defense force inside of us wants us to be cautious, to stay away from anything as intense as a new kind of action. Its job is to protect us, and it categorically avoids anything resembling danger. But it's often wrong. Anything worth doing is worth doing too soon.
creativity dancing waiting
Your creativity is waiting for you like a dancing partner.
mean love-life sorrow
Becoming mature means learning to accept what you cannot change, facing unresolved sorrows and learning to love life as it really happens, not as you would have it happen.
mean conceited self
A direct statement about yourself is considered objective only if it is negative. If it's positive, it is considered subjective. And 'objective' means it is accurate, and 'subjective' means it is conceited self-delusion.
success winner environment
The environment that creates winners is almost always made up of winners.
real worry obstacles
Imaginary obstacles are insurmountable. Real ones aren't.