Carolyn Heilbrun
Carolyn Heilbrun
Carolyn Gold Heilbrunwas an American academic at Columbia University, the first woman to receive tenure in the English department, and a prolific feminist author of academic studies. In addition, beginning in the 1960s, she published numerous popular mystery novels with a woman protagonist, under the pen name of Amanda Cross. These have been translated into numerous languages and in total sold nearly one million copies worldwide...
doom fear sexually trying view women
The Freudian view that accomplished women are sexually men, or trying to be, has done more, I suspect, than any other misconception to doom women to fear of accomplishment and selfhood.
favorite-words normal serious
Normal is absolutely my least favorite word.
sisterhood men he-man
Ironically, women who acquire power are more likely to be criticized for it than are the men who have always had it.
boredom challenges sin
one sank into the ancient sin of anomie when challenges failed.
marriage betrayal boredom
Why do long marriages occasionally endow their inhabitants with a rare kind of equilibrium otherwise almost unknown in human relations? My guess is that the value of the moment has at last overshadowed the long history of resentments, betrayals, and boredom.
gestures empty filled
Most full lives are filled with empty gestures.
our-actions outcomes strategy
We cannot guess the outcome of our actions... Which is why our actions must always be acceptable in themselves, and not as strategies.
kindness selfish years
Once you are thought selfish, not only are you forgiven a life designed mainly to suit yourself, which in anyone else would appear monstrous, but if an impulse to generosity should by chance overpower you, you will get five times the credit of some poor selfless soul who has been oozing kindness for years.
toilets care ashes
You can flush my ashes down the toilet, for all I care.
simple men feminist
To recommend that women become identical to men, would be simple reversal, and would defeat the whole point of androgyny, and for that matter, feminism: in both, the whole point is choice.
marriage husband lovers
The compulsion to find a lover and husband in a single person has doomed more women to misery than any other illusion.
marriage support together
a revolutionary marriage ... [is] one in which both partners have work at the center of their lives and must find a delicate balance that can support both together and each individually.
marriage player two
The sign of a good marriage is that everything is debatable and challenged; nothing is turned into law or policy. The rules, if any, are known only to the two players, who seek no public trophies.