Helen Fisher
Helen Fisher
Helen E. Fisher is an American anthropologist, human behavior researcher, and self-help author. She is a biological anthropologist, is a Senior Research Fellow, at The Kinsey Institute, Indiana University, and a Member of the Center For Human Evolutionary Studies in the Department of Anthropology at Rutgers University. Prior to Rutgers University, she was a research associate at the American Museum of Natural History in New York City...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionScientist
Date of Birth31 May 1945
CountryUnited States of America
Romantic love is deeply embedded in the architecture and chemistry of the human brain, ... Why We Love.
The brain system for romantic love is associated with intense energy, focused energy, obsessive things - a host of characteristics that you can feel not just toward a mating sweetheart, ... there's every reason to think that girls can fall in love with other girls without feeling sexual towards them, without the intention to marry them.
It is very much like a drug high. When you're madly in love, you think this person is more special than anyone else on Earth. You focus all your attention on them. You have personality changes. You're willing to take great risks to win the person's affection. And you have a tolerance level -- you see the person a couple of times a week at first, and that's OK for a while, and then you've got to see them every night.
The double-income family was the standard. We are really moving back to the past.
Romantic love is one of the most powerful of all human experiences. It is definitely more powerful than the sex drive.
It's very hard to gauge. Those are signs of intention. But they are not signs that this person is actually good in bed and is compatible with you.
When somebody leaves Match.com or Chemistry.com, they ask you why you left. One box you can check is, 'I found somebody.' Between 15 and 20 percent of people check that box.
After a man falls madly in love, he no longer cares how old she is.
You can be instantly scared. You can be instantly happy. So why can't you be instantly romantically in love? I think when it happens, it's because you are ready to fall in love.
Today, American women bear an average of 2.2 children that live to adulthood. Across most of Europe, women bear even fewer young.
Keep an open heart. We are wired to find love.
Experiences shape the brain, but the brain shapes the way we view experiences, too.
People live for love. They kill for love. They die for love. They have songs, poems, novels, sculptures, paintings, myths, legends. It's one of the most powerful brain systems on Earth for both great joy and great sorrow.
Barriers tend to intensify romance. It's called the 'Romeo and Juliet effect.' I call it 'frustration attraction.'