Rosalind Wiseman
Rosalind Wiseman
Rosalind Wiseman is an American parenting educator and author of several publications. Her New York Times best-selling book Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence, released in 2002, was the basis of the 2004 film Mean Girls. Wiseman is also the creator of the Owning Up Curriculum, a program that teaches students and educators to take responsibility as bystanders, perpetrators, and victims of unethical behavior...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionEducator
CountryUnited States of America
American kids are more cynical than any other groups of kids I've worked with.
American kids are more cynical than any other groups of kids I've worked with. I think this is the case because we, as a country, have gotten a little confused about the family's values of standing up for what's right, apologizing when wrong and moral courage. People act according to their values when it's easy and everyone is getting along, but act totally against our values when we perceive someone is doing us wrong.
So many women keep their anger inside and let it build until they explode and then people blow them off again.
Sometimes bullies are your friends and very rarely do bullying prevention tips acknowledge this fact or what to do about it.
You can't make someone be your best friend.
When I tell people I work to stop hazing in high schools I am almost always met with shocked expressions. High school? Really? I thought that was something that only arrogant frat guys do in college. But its true - as long as I have worked on preventing bullying in high schools, I have worked to prevent hazing.
The hazing experience and then the subsequent participation in the group forces its members to maintain the status quo and traditions at all costs. It demands mindlessness and unquestioned loyalty, resulting in boring people who have little ability to think for themselves or have an opposing viewpoint from those who have the most social power.
Many kids who are bullied feel helpless. Sometimes, they think the only thing they can do is hope the problem will go away. But there are things you can do to get some control in the situation and it starts with developing a strategy and a support system.