Meghan O'Rourke
Meghan O'Rourke
Meghan O'Rourkeis an American nonfiction writer, poet and critic...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionPoet
CountryUnited States of America
Meghan O'Rourke quotes about
want sometimes what-you-want
Sometimes you don't even know what you want until you find out you can't have it.
denial longing intense
Many grievers experience intense yearning or longing after a death - more than they experience, say, denial.
loss lost-ones alive
One of the grubby truths about a loss is that you don't just mourn the dead person, you mourn the person you got to be when the lost one was alive. This loss might even be what affects you the most.
drama grief loss
Television has never known what to do with grief, which resists narrative: the dramas of grief are largely internal - for the bereaved, it is a chaotic, intense, episodic period, but the chaos is by and large subterranean, and easily appears static to the friendly onlooker who has absorbed the fact of loss and moved on.
pain sibling grief
It's a blessing not to be alone in your grief but it's also painful to see your parents and siblings in pain.
gymnastics grace athleticism
There is always tension in women's gymnastics between athleticism, grace, performance, and eros.
sea brain mind
Our minds are mysterious; our conscious brain is like a ship on a sea that is obscure to us.
spiritual grief reality
I think that grief is a profound spiritual, metaphysical, and - oddly - physical reckoning with death, which we don't understand well. It's both the process by which you relearn the world in the absence of someone who was a pillar in it, and the process in which you confront the reality of death.
fate thinking ideas
We have an idea - a very modern idea - that dying is undignified. But I think this is because we have the illusion that we can control our bodies and our fates.
pain grief differences
Much of Hamlet is about the precise kind of slippage the mourner experiences: the difference between being and seeming, the uncertainty about how the inner translates into the outer, the sense that one is expected to perform grief palatably. (If you don’t seem sad, people worry; but if you are grief-stricken, people flinch away from your pain.)
struggle loss doe
Faith does help mourners survive their loss, some studies suggest; but I imagine one still struggles.
loss feelings might
Many researchers say the dominant emotion experienced after loss is yearning or searching. And while you might feel more anger early on, it's accompanied by a whole host of other feelings.
loss thinking way
Be patient with yourself. Don't make the loss harder by thinking you should be a certain way, or have bounced back, etc.
grieving way research
There is no single way of grieving. But research suggests that there are some broad similarities among grievers.