Melody Beattie
Melody Beattie
Melody Beattie is an American author of self-help books on codependent relationships...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionWriter
CountryUnited States of America
letting-go stress hands
Letting go helps us to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. It allows others to be responsible for themselves and for us to take our hands off situations that do not belong to us. This frees us from unnecessary stress.
pain problem behavior
Codependents are reactionaries. They overreact. They under-react. But rarely do they act. They react to the problems, pains, lives, and behaviors of others. They react to their own problems, pains, and behaviors.
focus today tomorrow
I pray for faith that my future will be good if I live today well, and in peace. I will remember that staying in the present is the best thing I can do for my future. I will focus on what’s happening now instead of what’s going to happen tomorrow.
compassion ideas people
The lesson I was learning involved the idea that I could feel compassion for people without acting on it.
scared vulnerable weak
Our strength will continue if we allow ourselves the courage to feel scared, weak, and vulnerable...
letting-go moving focus
Today I will focus on a peaceful pace, rather than a harried one. I will keep moving forward gently, not frantically. I will let go of my need to be anxious and upset and will replace these feelings with calmness and harmony.
behavior obsessed codependent
A codependent person is one who has let another person's behavior affect him or her and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior.
helping remember god-help-me
God, help me remember that when I admit and accept the truth, I'll be given the power and guidance to change.
awareness behavior uncertain
We see and understand more about our behaviors. We come aware. And aware. And aware. . . Often, we feel uncertain about what to do with all this awareness.
control-someone differences giving
We don't want to give the controls to someone else; we want those reins ourselves. We want to get our way. And we get upset when things don't work out. . . . When we try to control someone else or events beyond the scope of our power, we lose. When we learn to discern the difference between what we can change and what we can't, we usually have an easier time expressing our power in our lives. Because we're not wasting all our energy using our power to change things we can't, we have a lot of energy left over to live our lives.
gratitude prayer grateful
Wants and needs are closely connected. And all our needs, even the ones we're not completely aware of yet, will be met. Be grateful that God knows more about what we need than we do. Sometimes when we pray, we get what we want. Sometimes we get what we need. Accept both answers-the yes's and the something else's-with heartfelt gratitude. Then look around and see what your lesson and gift is.
adventure heart journey
Start today to follow your heart. Map out your own journey. Have the adventure of a lifetime.
issues challenges way
Much of the time, the things we feel guilty about are not our issues. Another person behaves inappropriately or in some way violates our boundaries. We challenge the behavior, and the person gets angry and defensive. Then we feel guilty.
letting-go ideas choices
Letting go of our ideas about how life should go is a choice that sets life's magic free.