Tracy McMillan
Tracy McMillan
Tracy McMillanis an American author, television writer and relationship expert. She's known for the 2011 viral blog post "Why You're Not Married," which for two years was the most-viewed article on Huffington Post, and is fourth most read post of all time. She also wrote a book based on the piece, "Why You're Not Married...Yet". Her screenwriting credits include Mad Men, Necessary Roughness, Chase, Life on Mars, and The United States of Tara. She won the 2010 Writers Guild of...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionNon-Fiction Author
Date of Birth12 September 1964
CityMinneapolis, MN
CountryUnited States of America
I've been standing at water coolers for the past thirty years talking to women about their love lives, and here's what I've learned: Eventually, most women I know want to be partnered.
Putting my words piece online was an important part of my plan to help women learn how to love themselves and have a better life.
Without really trying to, I've become a sort of jailhouse lawyer of relationships - someone who's had to do so much work on her own case that I can now help you with yours.
If I had an office job, I'd probably be doing the exact same thing I'm doing on television: hanging out by the water cooler and talking to co-workers about their relationships.
For every year past the age of 27, you need to take another step toward commitment somewhere in your life. Instead of freelancing, you get a staff job. Instead of renting, you buy. Fine, instead of couch-surfing, you rent.
Yes, I have 'failed' at marriage - a lot.
There is no such thing as 'getting' a guy, house and kids. There is only surrendering to them.
The thing is, relationships never work out... until they do. You learn a lot from relationships that don't work out.
If you're not married, chances are you think a lot about you.
Because I was a television writer for many years, I write very conversationally. I put things straight, and with a lot of humor.
Rather than diminishing the idea of 'truly needing' a relationship - and trying to deny it, shame it, or talk ourselves out of it - why not just celebrate it? It's exactly what the world needs.
Somehow, married or single, we'd rather anesthetize ourselves with love substitutes than go for the real thing, because let's face it: The real thing is pretty scary.
We have this false idea in our culture that if you haven't made it by 30, then you're never going to do anything interesting. My 40s have been the most incredible time of my life.
Work is a different type of pursuit than relationships. You can't take the skills that you know that have gotten you into that great school or into that great job and apply them to your relationships.