Gary Chapman
Gary Chapman
Gary Demonte Chapmanis the author of the bestselling The 5 Love Languages® series, which has sold more than 10 million worldwide and has been translated into 50 languages. Dr. Chapman travels the world presenting seminars on marriage, family, and relationships, and his radio programs air on more than 400 stations. He lives in North Carolina with his wife, Karolyn...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionReligious Author
Date of Birth10 January 1938
CountryUnited States of America
goal wife advice
Before I discovered the concept of the 5 love languages, a bit of advice I was given was to become a student of my wife and to take time to learn what makes her feel loved. I soon learned that what makes her feel loved may not always be the thing I want to do because it may not come natural to me. But learning to love her in the way that makes her feel loved is a greater demonstration of my love for her, because I've chosen to do it with a goal of pleasing her.
sea mountain desert
For love, we will climb mountains, cross seas, traverse desert sands, and endure untold hardships. Without love, mountains become unclimbable, seas uncrossable, deserts unbearable, and hardships our lot in life.
yesterday new-day today
I am amazed by how many individuals mess up every new day with yesterday. They insist on bringing into today the failures of yesterday and in so doing, they pollute a potentially wonderful day.
children emotional language-of-love
Inside every child is an 'emotional rani's waiting to be filled with love. When a child really feels loved, he will develop normally but when the love tank is empty, the child will misbehave. Much of the misbehavior of children is motivated by the cravings of an empty 'love tank
demand request
Love makes requests, not demands.
yesterday new-day wonderful-day
I am amazed by how many individuals mess up every new day with yesterday.
years counseling feels
I have been doing marriage counseling for about 15 years and I realized that what makes one person feel loved, doesn't make another person feel loved.
love-you expression decision
You cannot force someone to accept an expression of love. You can only offer it. If it is not accepted, you must respect the other person's decision.
love-is giving demand
Love is always freely given. Love cannot be demanded. We can request things of each other, but we must never demand anything. Requests give direction to love, but demands stop the flow of love.
isolation humans human-psyche
Isolation is devastating to the human psyche.
love-is want one-you-love
The object of love is not getting something you want but doing something for the well-being of the one you love.
encouragement believe giving
Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse's perspective. We must first learn what is important to our spouse. Only then can we give encouragement. With verbal encouragement, we are trying to communicate, "I know. I care. I am with you. How can I help?" We are trying to show that we believe in him and in his abilities. We are giving credit and praise.
feels
All of us blossom when we feel loved and wither when we do not feel loved.
love-is trying reaching
Love is reaching out to try to get to the other person.