Gary Chapman
Gary Chapman
Gary Demonte Chapmanis the author of the bestselling The 5 Love Languages® series, which has sold more than 10 million worldwide and has been translated into 50 languages. Dr. Chapman travels the world presenting seminars on marriage, family, and relationships, and his radio programs air on more than 400 stations. He lives in North Carolina with his wife, Karolyn...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionReligious Author
Date of Birth10 January 1938
CountryUnited States of America
love-is giving demand
Love is always freely given. Love cannot be demanded. We can request things of each other, but we must never demand anything. Requests give direction to love, but demands stop the flow of love.
giving demand flow
Requests give direction to love, but demands stop the flow of love.
thinking people want
I think people desperately want to feel love.
isolation humans human-psyche
Isolation is devastating to the human psyche.
love-is want one-you-love
The object of love is not getting something you want but doing something for the well-being of the one you love.
love-you expression decision
You cannot force someone to accept an expression of love. You can only offer it. If it is not accepted, you must respect the other person's decision.
feels
All of us blossom when we feel loved and wither when we do not feel loved.
encouragement believe giving
Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse's perspective. We must first learn what is important to our spouse. Only then can we give encouragement. With verbal encouragement, we are trying to communicate, "I know. I care. I am with you. How can I help?" We are trying to show that we believe in him and in his abilities. We are giving credit and praise.
two matter way
Ask yourself: Does the action I am considering have any potential for dealing with the wrong and helping the relationship? And is it best for the person at whom I am angry? The two most constructive options are either to confront the person in a helpful way, or to consciously decide to overlook the matter.
giving today miserable
Nobody has the power to make you miserable . . . unless you choose to give them that power. Choose to enjoy every drop of today!
forget problem projects
We are trained to analyze problems and create solutions. We forget that marriage is a relationship, not a project to be completed or a problem to solve.
years counseling feels
I have been doing marriage counseling for about 15 years and I realized that what makes one person feel loved, doesn't make another person feel loved.
accomplishment found
Life's deepest meaning is not found in accomplishments , but in relationships
yesterday new-day today
I am amazed by how many individuals mess up every new day with yesterday. They insist on bringing into today the failures of yesterday and in so doing, they pollute a potentially wonderful day.