Jo Coudert
Jo Coudert
Jo Coudert quotes about
path habit used
The more deeply the path is etched, the more it is used, and the more it is used, the more deeply it etched.
self-esteem being-single people
You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. Of all the people you will know in the lifetime, you are the only one you will never leave or lose.
running fashion love-is
Examining love is like examining a stocking: if you hold it up to the light and stretch it to search for snags, any snags there are may well run and ruin the stocking. In fact, if I may fashion Coudert's law from Heisenberg's principle of indeterminacy, it is this: Love is not only changed by observation; it is changed for the worse.
struggle responsibility winning
We can win the struggle to avoid responsibility for our personal lives, but if we do, what we lose is our lives.
respect believe oil
It is characteristic to believe that those in need are given to, that the squeaky hinge is the one that gets the oil, but in the realm of emotions this is not so. It is the person who does not solicit liking and love, admiration and respect, sympathy and empathy to whom they are freely given.
people
People who are good to each other make each other good.
long world might
The cruelest affront is treating the person as exactly the person he is. We all long to be understood, but not for what we are. We long to be understood for what we might have been had all been for the best in the best of all possible worlds and, at the same time, to be forgiven for what we are.
mind detectives world
Operating in an unlit world, the unconscious mind is a brilliant detective.
past feelings age
At what age should one marry? As a rule of thumb, perhaps not until you are past the age of feeling strongly that you must marry.
heart serious affliction
Hardening of the hearteries is the most serious affliction besetting marriage, and warm, good-humored, approving words are the only effective preventive.
hunting punishment judging
One does not marry to become a judge of the spouse's behavior. If a marriage license is mistaken for a hunting license and disapproval, punishment, and threat of withdrawal of love are employed as weapons, all one bags is one's own unhappiness.
confidence quiet-moments self
The unlived life is not worth examining. ... Self-awareness, self-examination, self-consciousness are for the quiet moments. In the arena they are paralyzing. The self must not be held out of the arena until living skills have been learned.
notebook meaningful running
If life is envisioned as a continuously running motion picture, the keeping of a notebook stops the action and allows a meaningful scene to be explored frame by frame.
life-is dilemma persons
Every life is a dilemma that must be solved by the person living it.