Jo Coudert
Jo Coudert
self-esteem believe views
It is rewarding to find someone you like, but it is essential to like yourself. It is quickening to recognize that someone is a good and decent human being, but it is indispensable to view yourself as acceptable. It is a delight to discover people who are worthy of respect and admiration and love, but it is vital to believe yourself deserving of these things.
being-single self single-life
You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. The single relationship that is truly central and crucial in a life is the relationship to the self.
failure self way
There is no way of steering successfully between a failed situation and a failed self except by stopping and taking our bearings.
notebook meaningful running
If life is envisioned as a continuously running motion picture, the keeping of a notebook stops the action and allows a meaningful scene to be explored frame by frame.
self-esteem being-single people
You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. Of all the people you will know in the lifetime, you are the only one you will never leave or lose.
circles people trying
The people trying to change others can conveniently be termed the angry, while the people trying to change themselves might be called the guilty, although it would be just as descriptive to speak of the controlling and the dependent, or the paranoid and the repressive, or, inelegantly, the screamers and the criers. In some circles, attaching labels to people rates only a little higher than chicken stealing, because ... a label immediately ends attempts to understand the individual.
human-nature quirks treats
It is one of those quirks of human nature that you love the person whom you treat well, not necessarily the person who treats you well.
friendship thinking people
Most people ask of their friends that they understand them, but, on balance, I think I prefer a friend who understands himself.
expectations world
We find what we expect to find. We do not see the world as it is but as we are.
denial way needs
To live with the terrible truths about ourselves is the only way of not living them out. A need denied has infinitely more power than a need accepted.
genuine-love self affirmation
Self-affirmation cannot be found in love; it is a prior condition of genuine love.
hands kitchen taste
While it is necessary to eat and therefore it is pleasantest to eat food that looks handsome and tastes good, on the other hand there are things I would far rather do than spend time in a kitchen.
sex loneliness attachment
A cruel joke has been played on us. We are fated always to remember what we learned but never to recall the experiences that taught us. Who can remember being born? Yet, it is possible to speculate that anxiety has its roots in this experience, that dread of abandonment, fears of separation, intolerable loneliness go back to this moment. Who can remember being cared for as an infant? ... Who can remember being toilet-trained? ... Who can remember the attachment which developed to the parent of the opposite sex? ... We cannot remember but what we have forgotten lives on dynamically.
being-in-love love-is may
Affection may be abiding and love may be abiding, but the state of being in love is transitory.