John Bradshaw
John Bradshaw
heal feels
You can't heal what you can't feel.
children risk world
Children are curious and are risk takers. They have lots of courage. They venture out into a world that is immense and dangerous. A child initially trusts life and the processes of life.
children giving fooled
Children aren't fooled. They know we give time to the things we love.
dark two doctors
That's the trouble with the conventional doctors. They always say, 'How does it work?' but often there isn't any neat little answer...Something simply works...We don't really know how it works. We say we do. We know one or two things we can see and measure...
dark medicine age
There are plenty of quacks in the field. Fewer than you'd expect, though still plenty (in alternative medicine).
roots addiction shame
Shame is the root of all addictions.
inner-strength virtue
Virtue is an inner strength. It expands your nature.
moving healthy limits
Healthy shame is an emotion that teaches us about our limits. Like all emotions, shame moves us to get our basic needs met.
underlying
In a sense, all of my books have been about a 'poisonous pedagogy,' which engenders a culture of obedience, this underlying theme of patriarchal systems.
affect argue education element feeling simply technical word
In 'Reclaiming Virtue,' I argue that we have had an element missing in moral education. That element is 'affect.' Affect is simply the technical word for feeling or emotion.
subject
The idea of evil is always subject to denial as a coping mechanism.
broken conscious define fully good somebody understand
I define a 'good person' as somebody who is fully conscious of their own limitations. They know their strengths, but they also know their 'shadow' - they know their weaknesses. In other words, they understand that there is no good without bad. Good and evil are really one, but we have broken them up in our consciousness. We polarize them.
books differs formulas offer people quick solutions tidy work
Many self-help books give you these neat, tidy formulas that are really illusions. They dupe people into thinking, 'Well if I can just do that, then everything's going to be okay.' My work differs in that I don't offer quick solutions and simple explanations.
calling false hope modern offer power programs selves tap touch toxic unlimited
The unlimited power that many modern gurus offer is false hope. Their programs calling us to unlimited power have made them rich, not us. They touch our false selves and tap our toxic shame.