Melody Beattie
Melody Beattie
Melody Beattie is an American author of self-help books on codependent relationships...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionWriter
CountryUnited States of America
Melody Beattie quotes about
relationships
Relationships are where we take our recovery on the road.
stop taking
Guilt can stop us from taking healthy care of ourselves.
focused gentle life
What do you do when life blindfolds you and spins you around? We think it's our fault, that we're to blame, when really we should be focused on being gentle with ourselves.
code people trying waste
Don't violate your own code of values and ethics, but don't waste energy trying to make other people violate theirs.
likely love
I used to be afraid of pain, didn't take a lot of risks, especially in love. I'm not as afraid anymore. I'm more spontaneous, more likely to say what I think.
trust
We can trust ourselves to know when our boundaries are being violated.
aware death diagnosis gave people received
I want people who have received a diagnosis of Hepatitis C to know that they didn't just receive a death sentence. They do have options, even if the person who gave them their diagnosis isn't aware of all of them. The path they choose doesn't have to be one of desperation.
letting-go people today
Today I will let go of my need for approval and my need to be liked. Instead, I will choose to like and approve of myself. The people who count (including me) will respect me when I'm true to who I really am.
letting-go knowing trying
Today I will stop trying to control my relationships. I will participate at a reasonable level and let the other person do the same. I can let go, knowing that the relationship will find its own life-or not-and that I don't have to do all the work, only my share.
letting-go giving-up kindness
Letting go means we stop trying to force outcomes and make people behave. It means we give up resistance to the way things are, for the moment. It means we stop trying to do the impossible-controlling that which we cannot-and instead, focus on what is possible-which usually means taking care of ourselves. And we do this in gentleness, kindness, and love, as much as possible.
waiting may today
Today I will not wait for someone to come to my aid. I'm not helpless. Although help may come, I'm my own rescuer. My relationships will dramatically improve when I stop rescuing others and stop expecting others to rescue me.
letting-go relax be-patient
Be patient. Relax and trust. Let go. Then, let go some more.
letting-go love-you mean
Speak your truth. Listen when others speak theirs, too. When you let go of fear, you will learn to love others, and you will let them love you. Do not be afraid of dying. But do not be afraid to live. Ask yourself what that means. Open your heart to love, for that is why you are here. And know that you are, and always have been One with Me and all who live.
letting-go who-i-am imperfection
Today I will learn to reject shame. Shame is an overwhelming sense that who I am isn't good enough. I realize that I am good enough, and that my imperfections are part of being human. I let go of shame.