Merle Shain
Merle Shain
Merle Shain was a Canadian author and journalist...
NationalityCanadian
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CountryCanada
marriage loneliness giving
Marriage is supposed to do everything, like Duz, which is more than half its problem. It is said to save us, define us, give us purpose, keep us from loneliness, and incidentally balance our diet and wash our socks, and when it doesn't, we get divorced.
marriage growing-up night
We marry to grow up, to escape our parents and to inherit our share of the world, not knowing who we are and who we will become, so it is left to marriage to make it clear which ones of us are growing in the same directions and which are ships meant to have passed in the night.
humility men play
Our times are obsessed with finding fulfillment, so there are times when some people try too hard, and there are people who want to have the newest feelings just as there are those who want to have the latest model car. You can't play at love any more than you can be proud of your humility, or add water to your perfume and have it smell the same, but men and women both have been known to try.
love-is long understanding
Love is short, forgetting is long, and understanding longer still.
decision daring
There are some decisions in life that only you can make.
thanksgiving blessing giving
The act is unjustifiable that either begs for a blessing, or, having succeeded gives no thanksgiving.
generosity accepting
It takes great generosity to accept generosity.
good-luck past years
It's hard to tell our good luck sometimes. Hard to tell sometimes for many years to come. And most of us have wept copious tears over someone or something, when if we'd understood the situation better, we might have celebrated our good fortune insteadOne can never change the past, only the hold it has on you and while nothing in your life is reversible, you can reverse it nevertheless.
anger passion night
Anger is a passion, so it makes people feel alive and makes them feel they matter and are in charge of their lives. So people often need to renew their anger a long time after the cause of it has died, because it is a protection against helplessness and emptiness just like howling in the night. And it makes them feel less vulnerable for a little while.
compassion
Compassion is the thing that leads you gently back to yourself.
real thinking empty-vessels
Until you divest yourself of the notion that you are a collection of needs, an empty vessel that someone else must fill up, there will be no safe place to harbor yourself, no safe shore to reach. As long as you think mostly of getting, you will have nothing real to give.
love doe
It takes a lot of mulch, love does, to create a froth.
moon names rockets
Most women would rather have someone whisper their name at optimum moments than rocket with contractions to the moon.
healing past never-change
One can never change the past, only the hold it has on you.