Merle Shain
Merle Shain
Merle Shain was a Canadian author and journalist...
NationalityCanadian
ProfessionAuthor
CountryCanada
mean loving-someone different
Loving someone means helping them to be more themselves, which can be different from being what you’d like them to be, although often they turn out the same
spring promise silent
Each of us is a seed, a silent promise, and it is always Spring.
people faithful infidelity
There are problems connected with infidelity and problems connected with being faithful at any cost, and I am for letting those concerned choose the problems they'd prefer. There need not be one rule for all. Infidelity is enlarging and fragmenting and very very dangerous, but it has been known to retrieve people as well as marriages, so it can't be only bad.
love roots water
The roots of love sink down and deep and strike out far, and they are arteries that feed our lives, so we must see that they get the water and sun they need so they can nourish us. And when you put something good into the world, something good comes back to you.
sex deep-love fire
Sex deepens love and love deepens sex, so physical intimacy transforms everything and playing with it is playing with fire.
land lost beginnings-and-endings
If there are no endings, there are no beginnings and you see no new lands, so for everything that's lost, there is usually something gained.
divorce work-out persons
No marriage is one person's failure any more than it's one person's success, so it works best to see a marriage that has ended simply as something that didn't work out.
book pages way
There are many pages in the book, many kinds of lives we each can live, many ways to be rich, and even more to be poor.
might world window
Friends are like windows through which you see out into the world and back into yourself. If you don't have friends you see much less than you otherwise might.
roles comfort chance
The conflict between what one is and who one is expected to be touches all of us. And sometimes, rather than reach for what one could be, we choose the comfort of the failed role, preferring to be the victim of circumstance, the person who didn't have a chance.
rivers laughing life-is-like
Life is like fording a river, stepping from one slippery stone to another, and you must rejoice every time you don't lose your balance, and learn to laugh at all the times you do.
marriage commitment soul
I'm not sure there can be loving without commitment, although commitment takes all kinds of forms, and there can be commitment for the moment as well as commitment for all time. The kind that is essential for loving marriages - and love affairs, as well - is a commitment to preserving the essential quality of your partner's soul, adding to them as a person rather than taking away.
people helping persons
Friends are people who help you be more yourself, more the person you are intended to be.
friends running strong
The job of a friend is not to decide what should be done, not to run interference or pick up the slack. The job of a friend is to understand, and to supply energy and hope, and in doing so to keep those they value on their feet a little longer, so that they can fight another round and grow strong in themselves.