Merle Shain
Merle Shain
Merle Shain was a Canadian author and journalist...
NationalityCanadian
ProfessionAuthor
CountryCanada
both friendship gift given giver giving goes work
Friendship is the gift that goes on giving and is a gift to both the person given to and to the giver as well. But to really make it work it isn't enough to give to another person, you have also to let them give to you.
american-musician employ hands hearts hire men work
You can employ men and hire hands to work for you, but you must win their hearts to have them work with you.
american-musician learns
One often learns more from ten days of agony than ten years of contentment.
divorce views grandparent
Perhaps the old view of 'Me breadwinner, you hausfrau' worked for our grandparents, when people obligingly popped off before boring each other to death, but it won't work any longer because we are living too long and divorce is needed today to do what death acomplished more economically before.
journey emotional thinking
Feelings take you into uncharted territory from time to time it's true, but you almost always benefit from the journey one way or the other. We tend to think of the rational as a higher order, but it is the emotional that marks our lives.
heartbreak running dog
One can't run in a park without a dog or make angels in the snow without a child and there are things one can't do without a lover, so the loss of the lover is like an amputation and the patient goes into shock.
eye men sight
But who would rush at a benighted man, and give him two black eyes for being blind?
cynicism cowardice form
Cynicism is a form of cowardice, a failure of courage to hope.
world
when you put something good into the world, something good comes back to you.
people pillars sometimes
The people in your life are like the pillars on your porch. Sometimes they hold you up, and sometimes they lean on you. Sometimes it's enough to know they are standing by.
waiting live-in-the-moment despair
The day you spend hoping, the day you spend waiting, the day you spend in despair, is a day in your life as much as the tomorrow you hope for, but which may never come, so betting today on tomorrow is always a bad bet.
men perfect use
There are no perfect men of course, but some are more perfect than others, and we can use all of those we can get.
dream falling-in-love believe
The dream of romantic love is taken more seriously in North America than it is anywhere else in the world, which is why we believe in fidelity and why we believe in infidelity as well. It is also, of course, what makes our divorce rate as high as it is. Falling in love at first sight and instant gratification are part of the world in which we live, so there are people who believe adamantly in fidelity. They just don't believe in it for long.
men done kind
The best kind of men have a certainty in themselves that isn't done in when countered by a certainty in their women, and they are much adored.