Henry Cloud
Henry Cloud
Henry Cloud, PhD is an American Christian self help author. Cloud co-authored Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life in 1992 which sold two million copies and evolved into a five-part series...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionPsychologist
CountryUnited States of America
intimacy true-intimacy disagree
True intimacy is only build around the freedom to disagree.
frustration firsts resentment
One of the first signs that you’re beginning to develop boundaries is a sense of resentment, frustration, or anger at the subtle and not-so-subtle violations in your life. Just as radar signals the approach of a foreign missile, your anger can alert you to boundary violations in your life.
independence remember god-exists
Independence is not an option for us. Remember, God existed without us.
support-you evil long
God's solution for "I can't live that way anymore" is basically, "Good! Don't live that way anymore. Set firm limits against evil behavior that are designed to promote change and redemption. Get the love and support you need from other places to take the kind of stance that I do to help redeem relationship. Suffer long, but suffer in the right way." And when done God's way, chances are much better for redemption.
successful people way
Successful people stick to what they are good at and find ways to make that larger.
painful persons irresponsible
Confronting an irresponsible person is not painful to him; only consequences are.
handle amount
The amount of truth a relationship can handle is proportional to the amount of perceived love that's present.
relationship two issues
The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.
party writing heart
The Bible is clear about two principles: (1) We always need to forgive, but (2) we don’t always achieve reconciliation. Forgiveness is something that we do in our hearts; we release someone from a debt that they owe us. We write off the person’s debt, and she no longer owes us. We no longer condemn her. She is clean. Only one party is needed for forgiveness: me. The person who owes me a debt does not have to ask my forgiveness. It is a work of grace in my heart.
wells
Being right can never compete with doing well.
leader church visionaries
Oftentimes, churches are started by an entrepreneurial church plant visionary whom everybody follows, but he's not following anybody. Even though he's "accountable to a board," he's really not. Authority's a good thing, and if it's not forced upon you as a leader, then I suggest, strongly, that you go buy some.
frustration reality facts
Anger is frustration at the fact that we are not God, and do not have control over reality.
tolerate
It is true that you get what you tolerate.
looks doe needs
To grow, we need things that we do not have and cannot provide, and we need to have a source of those things who looks favorably upon us and who does things for us for our own good.