Henry Cloud
Henry Cloud
Henry Cloud, PhD is an American Christian self help author. Cloud co-authored Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life in 1992 which sold two million copies and evolved into a five-part series...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionPsychologist
CountryUnited States of America
inspirational pain parenting
We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.
responsibility two people
When we ask we are owning our needs. Asking for love, comfort or understanding is a transaction between two people. You are saying: I have a need. It's not your problem. It's not your responsibility. You don't have to respond, but I'd like something from you. This frees the other person to connect with you freely and without obligation. When we own that our needs are our responsibility we allow others to love us because we have something to offer. Asking is a far cry from demanding. When we demand love, we destroy it.
two leader combination
In the end, as a leader, you are always going to get a combination of two things: what you create and what you allow.
brain able fuel
When you encourage someone, it literally changes their brain chemistry to be able to perform... sends fuel to the brain.
tests doe love-respect
A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word 'no.' Love respects 'no,' control does not.
heart care humans
The human heart will seek to be known, understood, and connected with above all else. If you do not connect, the ones you care about will find someone who will.
trying christ our-lives
The sad thing is that many of us come to Christ because we are sinners, and then spend the rest of our lives trying to pretend that we are not!
taken people giving
Leadership is not taken, it is given. People give leadership to those that they trust. They allow people that they trust to have influence over their lives.
success mistake people
We all make mistakes, but the people who thrive from their mistakes are the successful ones.
opposites
The opposite of bad is not good.The opposite of bad is love
attempting grows
You will not grow without attempting to do things you are unable to do.
trying fool doe
The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.
differences solitude isolation
There is a difference between solitude and isolation. One is connected and one isn't. Solitude replenishes, isolation diminishes.
issues persons hard
Be Hard on the issue, Soft on the person.