Henry Cloud
Henry Cloud
Henry Cloud, PhD is an American Christian self help author. Cloud co-authored Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life in 1992 which sold two million copies and evolved into a five-part series...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionPsychologist
CountryUnited States of America
independence remember god-exists
Independence is not an option for us. Remember, God existed without us.
jobs moving grief
Grief is accepting the reality of what is. That is grief's job and purpose-to allow us to come to terms with the way things really are, so that we can move on. Grief is a gift of God. Without it, we would all be condemned to a life of continually denying reality, arguing or protesting against reality, and never growing from the realities we experience.
support-you evil long
God's solution for "I can't live that way anymore" is basically, "Good! Don't live that way anymore. Set firm limits against evil behavior that are designed to promote change and redemption. Get the love and support you need from other places to take the kind of stance that I do to help redeem relationship. Suffer long, but suffer in the right way." And when done God's way, chances are much better for redemption.
couple real years
Couples often live out years of falsehood trying to protect and save a relationship, all the while destroying any chance of real relationship.
successful people way
Successful people stick to what they are good at and find ways to make that larger.
giving people feel-good
If you continue to blame other people for “making” you feel guilty, they still have power over you, and you are saying that you will only feel good when they stop doing that. You are giving them control over your life. Stop blaming other people.
secret want loved-ones
He is the Truth, and He wants us to deal in truth with ourselves and our loved ones. We want the truth about you and your family to flood into and overrun the secrets that keep you in bondage to dysfunctional behavior and relationships
inspirational real reason
Faith goes beyond reason. It goes beyond what you can see. But it is as real as anything you can touch or feel.
children character parenting
Don't go overboard in praising required behavior: 'We have only done our duty' (Luke 17:10). But do go overboard when your child confesses the truth, repents honestly, takes chances, and loves openly. Praise the developing character in your child as it emerges in active, loving, responsible behavior.
painful persons irresponsible
Confronting an irresponsible person is not painful to him; only consequences are.
handle amount
The amount of truth a relationship can handle is proportional to the amount of perceived love that's present.
relationship two issues
The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.
children sadness emotional
When a child shuts down his painful emotional side, he also loses the ability to express his joyous side. Emotions are a whole. With anger comes the ability to express delight; with sadness comes the ability to express lightheartedness. This is the breadth of emotion that allows an adult to experience intimacy with a spouse, with God, and with his children
feel-better next-day needs
We need rest not just so we feel better. We need rest for actual creation of what we're going to need the next day.