Henry Cloud
Henry Cloud
Henry Cloud, PhD is an American Christian self help author. Cloud co-authored Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life in 1992 which sold two million copies and evolved into a five-part series...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionPsychologist
CountryUnited States of America
growth shy development
Endings are a part of life, and we are actually wired to execute them. But because of trauma, developmental failures, and other reasons, we shy away from the steps that could open up whole new worlds of development and growth.
essentials building boundaries
Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.
horse thinking worry
Dont use all-or-nothing thinking. Take each day as its own day, and dont worry about it if you mess up one day. The most important thing you can do is just get back up on the horse.
mature-person immature demand
The mature person meets the demands of life, while the immature person demands that life meet her demands.
children fall character
For someone's character to grow, it has to be free from internal attack. Falling down never stopped children from developing. But getting yelled at, criticized, and put down can stop them for life.
intimacy true-intimacy disagree
True intimacy is only build around the freedom to disagree.
responsibility freedom-and-responsibility
Love can only exist where freedom and responsibility are operating.
love perception age
Marriage is not slavery. It is based on a love relationship deeply rooted in freedom. Each partner is free from the other and therefore free to love the other. Where there is control, or perception of control, there is not love. Love only exists where there is freedom.
powerful real soul
The physicality of a real relationship - one that encompasses mind, body and soul - ultimately makes it more fulfilling and powerful than any virtual relationship ever could be.
character ability grows
Encourage literally came from "in courage." The courage is put "into" you from outside. Our character and abilities grow through internalizing from others what we do not possess in ourselves.
space champion healthy
Spouses in healthy relationships cherish each other's space and are champions of each other's causes.
gratitude evaluation and-love
The natural response to evaluation is to feel judged. We have to mature to a place where we respond to it with gratitude, and love feedback.
order want might
You have to be able to face losing some things you might want in order to be free to do the right thing.
frustration firsts resentment
One of the first signs that you’re beginning to develop boundaries is a sense of resentment, frustration, or anger at the subtle and not-so-subtle violations in your life. Just as radar signals the approach of a foreign missile, your anger can alert you to boundary violations in your life.