Henry Cloud
Henry Cloud
Henry Cloud, PhD is an American Christian self help author. Cloud co-authored Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life in 1992 which sold two million copies and evolved into a five-part series...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionPsychologist
CountryUnited States of America
chaotic closed outside run systems time ways
Closed systems run down and get more chaotic over time. Always get better by being 'open' to outside energy and templates of better ways to function.
human life order performance relationships
Every human being must have boundaries in order to have successful relationships or a successful performance in life.
assess deadline executive functions
Part of executive functions is the ability to look to a goal deadline and assess where an organization is in meeting it.
brain able fuel
When you encourage someone, it literally changes their brain chemistry to be able to perform... sends fuel to the brain.
tests doe love-respect
A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word 'no.' Love respects 'no,' control does not.
mature-person immature demand
The mature person meets the demands of life, while the immature person demands that life meet her demands.
intimacy true-intimacy disagree
True intimacy is only build around the freedom to disagree.
independence remember god-exists
Independence is not an option for us. Remember, God existed without us.
support-you evil long
God's solution for "I can't live that way anymore" is basically, "Good! Don't live that way anymore. Set firm limits against evil behavior that are designed to promote change and redemption. Get the love and support you need from other places to take the kind of stance that I do to help redeem relationship. Suffer long, but suffer in the right way." And when done God's way, chances are much better for redemption.
painful persons irresponsible
Confronting an irresponsible person is not painful to him; only consequences are.
wells
Being right can never compete with doing well.
tolerate
It is true that you get what you tolerate.
scary guilt calling
It’s scary to realize that the only thing holding our friends to us isn’t our performance, or our lovability, or their guilt, or their obligation. The only thing that will keep them calling, spending time with us, and putting up with us is love. And that’s the one thing we can’t control.
integrity past reality
I'm not an expert in the sociological realities of all the pastors in the world, but I would say that there are some very, very positive things about the state of integrity in church leaders.